mind - body - spirit through song

Music has been a very strong source of support and guidance. I have found lyrics in words that validate my feelings; give me guidance; let me feel that I am not alone. I hope to use this section of my blog to post songs that highlight issues that may be addressed in therapy. If you have a song you would like to share here, please do so.

  • mind - body - spirit through song,  something to ponder

    rewriting history

    Rewriting history We all come with baggage Things that happened to us as children; as teenagers and as adults Maybe a family member was insensitive to our needs; perhaps there was cruelty either accidental or intentional. There is remorse or regret over something we did: maybe we were the bully ; or we were the abuser. At times the victim becomes the victimizer. You can gaze at the past but do not dwell on it. We have learned – through self help books and therapy that we need to ‘work through’ our issues; which we dutifully do – we journal; talk about it; cry over it; confront the individuals that…

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    Living in the Past

    Lyrics: Happy and I’m smiling Walk a mile to drink your water you know I’d love to love you and above you there is no other. We’ll go walking out while other’s shout of war’s disaster. Oh, we won’t give in, let’s go on living in the past. Once, I used to join in every boy and girl was my friend. Now, there’s revolution, but they don’t know what they’re fighting. Let us close our eyes; Outside their lives go on much faster. Oh, we won’t give in, We’ll keep living in the past.

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    The Lazy Song

    Very cute video.  As I was on my treadmill, struggling with running after not having run for several days, I heard this song on the radio.  It struck me that while he did not feel like doing anything, he in fact, wrote this song, set it to music, and directed the video, had friends/associates that could do the video with him, and it became a number one hit. There is nothing wrong with taking a mental health day, feeling lazy, or laying on the couch all day on the weekend watching tv…but the fact is, that you do have to show up for yourself and do the things that you don’t…

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    Cognitive Distortion – Overgeneralization

    Overgeneralization is a type of cognitive distortion where an individual generalizes a negative view based on one, or limited, experience. In this song, Billy Joel is singing to someone who has ‘over generalized’ – she has been hurt in and is unwilling to love again. Does life stop after one is hurt or betrayed? Are there some things that are just too devastating that one simply just does not recover? We look to people to inspire us, like the guy that cut off his hand in order to live while mountain climbing; or Elizabeth Smart who was held hostage for over 18 years; the triathlon guy who does triathlons with his son, who…

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    alone again, naturally

    This is not a post adressing suicidal thoughts.  If you feel like you are going to hurt yourself, please talk to someone or take yourself to the nearest ER. The song is about loss: being left at the altar, the mother dying, father dying, relationships ending and being alone.  But the critical word, I believe, is ‘naturally’.  The idea that you are alone again, – of course, what else is there for me; I’m forever destined to be alone. http://youtu.be/D_P-v1BVQn8 How we perceive an event and the reason things happen to us is one of the centerpieces of our mental health.  If I think that I’m doomed to be alone…

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    i will survive

    This song is the mantra for many people who grew up in that era and thereafter.  I remember being on the dancefloor where there was always someone crying while dancing, yelling out the lyrics to the song, possbily after one beer too many.  Songs help people identify their emotions, express them and hopefully move on.  This is definitely a ‘I have moved on’ song.  Or more precisely, ‘I’ve moved on, but you seem to think that I will take you back’. http://youtu.be/ZBR2G-iI3-I Sometimes, we hold on to our anger or resentment long after the event has passed.  A person may stay stuck in the grief or the anger of the…

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    you owe me nothing in return

    Alanis Morissette – You Owe Me Nothing In Return This is someone’s YouTube posting of mostly the lyrics of the song.  I was not able to find an actual video made by Alanis Morissette. This song is intended to be from one person to another.  The general message is to be able to love someone else unconditionally – which is great and is something to strive for.  It is also a message against those relationships where basically, one person is held hostage in the relationship through guilting, blaming and or shaming. The reality though, is that we are all human beings struggling to do the right thing and always imperfectly.   We…

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    just the way you are

    In 2002, I was struggling with my spiritual life.  I basically didn’t have one and was feeling inadequate spiritually.  Whatever I did was not quite the ‘right’ thing or not ‘good enough’.  Then I heard this song on the radio while driving somewhere and it opened up my heart to accept myself and my spirituality just as it was. Billy Joel – Just the Way You Are You too, may be struggling with an aspect of yourself.  We get so much information from various places as to what is a ‘correct’ spiritual practice.  Inevitably, we are not as evolved as we would like to be, or that we think that…