When you’re in pain and life is hard; when your self esteem is at its low point and you are struggling. As you work on your issues, you work through painful feelings and you feel like this struggle counts as ‘working on yourself’, and it is. One way of coping through difficult times is by …
Today is Earth Day – a day for us to renew our awareness of our connection to the Earth. As we go through our daily routines, especially those of us that live in urban areas, it is easy to forget about the ground we walk upon. It is deeper than the sidewalk in front of …
Sometimes our thinking can get in the way of progress. We complicate things beyond recognition and become immobilized. The concept of ‘doing the next right thing’ is a way of removing the thinking clutter from our minds and focussing solely on the next step that will move you forward towards your desired goal.
Overgeneralization is a type of cognitive distortion where an individual generalizes a negative view based on one, or limited, experience. In this song, Billy Joel is singing to someone who has ‘over generalized’ – she has been hurt in and is unwilling to love again. Does life stop after one is hurt or betrayed? Are there some …
One thing to look at when thinking about unremitting problems is what is the secondary gain from staying stuck? Just as an alcoholic who gets sober suddenly finds themselves with a whole lot of time on their hands, so do others who make significant changes in their life. What would you be doing if you didn’t …
Anaïs Nin: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” Changing is difficult; taking risks; going down a new path. Familiar misery feels safer than the unknown leap into something we desire. At times, it is difficult to really see …
Practice makes progress. You can aspire to perfect, possibly, but only if this aspiration does not leave you feeling like you are eternally falling short. Self esteem and self confidence come from doing esteemable things. Doing those things that you would admire yourself for if you were to do them regularly, if they were part …