The Lazy Song

May 5, 2012 4 Comments 14 tags

Very cute video.  As I was on my treadmill, struggling with running after not having run for several days, I heard this song on the radio.  It struck me that

doing the next right thing

April 20, 2012 0 Comments 12 tags

Sometimes our thinking can get in the way of progress.  We complicate things beyond recognition and become immobilized.  The concept of ‘doing the next right thing’ is a way of

Cognitive Distortion – Overgeneralization

April 1, 2012 0 Comments 17 tags

Overgeneralization is a type of cognitive distortion where an individual generalizes a negative view based on one, or limited, experience. In this song, Billy Joel is singing to someone who has

secondary gain

March 18, 2012 0 Comments 14 tags

One thing to look at when thinking about unremitting problems is what is the secondary gain from staying stuck?  Just as an alcoholic who gets sober suddenly finds themselves with a

no magic wand, no crystal ball

March 2, 2012 0 Comments 13 tags

The therapist only knows what you tell them.  Sure, if the therapist has experience, they could probably surmise some things that you may not have spoken about yet, and hopefully,

pass the scalpel, please

February 26, 2012 0 Comments 10 tags

If you are contemplating going into therapy for the first time, chances are you are not in a good place in your life; and chances are that you are worried

making changes

February 19, 2012 0 Comments 13 tags

Anaïs Nin: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” Changing is difficult; taking risks;

practice makes progress

February 12, 2012 0 Comments 12 tags

Practice makes progress.  You can aspire to perfect, possibly, but only if this aspiration does not leave you feeling like you are eternally falling short.  Self esteem and self confidence

doing the next right thing

January 29, 2012 0 Comments 4 tags

Setting goals; thinking about making changes can be very overwhelming.  We can write lists; read books; talk to others and get suggestions and after all is said and done, nothing